This comes from an infertility website.... bolding and emphasis is mine.
"My Biggest Fear Was...
My biggest fear was that I would never
have a baby. It was all I ever wanted. Having suffered with
endometriosis for many years, I knew it would be difficult. I never
imagined that it would be a four year journey which included 4
laparoscopies, 3 HSG's too many blood tests, countless shots, at least 9
inseminations, 2 failed attempts at in-vitro, and a heartbreaking
miscarriage. Then there was emotional pain. Every month I had to
endure yet another loss, and somehow find strength so set myself up all
over again. I never understood why it was happening to me. The
monsters of this world were having babies and leaving them in dumpsters,
and I couldn't get pregnant no matter what I did - how can that be? I
know the answer now, and I can look back and say it was all worth it
because my story has a happy ending - a beautiful little boy name
My husband and I never really discussed adoption. It
was part of our plan, though - the very last resort. We would do so
many inseminations, then so many in-vitro's and then if none of that
worked we would adopt. Sounds logical, right? But we never thought it
was going to come to that because we kept telling ourselves that we were
going to get pregnant. When the day came that we reached the end of
our plan and we decided to give up on becoming pregnant, it wasn't as
hard to let go as I thought it would be. I remember a tremendous
feeling of relief. I finally felt like there was a light at the end of
the tunnel. We realized that we could become parents without getting
pregnant and this time it was really going to happen. Why didn't we
think of this sooner? Six months later we were holding our beautiful
baby boy in our arms. In that instant, all the pain of infertility when
away. We had our baby and we were his parents and our joy was
We chose and international adoption for many
reasons. The main reason was time - it took only six months for an
infant baby boy (our son was five months old when we brought him home).
We were told domestic adoptions could take years and then there was the
unbearable fear that someone could try to take him away from me. I
didn't even like the idea of "open" adoptions, which seem so popular
these days. I waited so long for a baby, I certainly didn't want to
share him with anybody. We decided on Russia because we knew the baby
would look like us and we knew the adoption was completely closed. I
was fortunate enough to have chose a wonderful agency like EAC, who
patiently helped me through all of the paperwork and, more importantly,
gave us the baby of our dreams.
Austin has been with us for three
years now. Sometimes we still pinch ourselves when we look at him. He
is so beautiful and smart and loving - we feel like the luckiest people
in the world to have this perfect little boy in our lives. It doesn't
matter where he came from - we couldn't possibly feel more love or pride
for him. We realize that some people are meant to become parents
through adoption, and we are two of those people. It is the best thing
that has ever happened to us. I honestly believe that we could not have
produced such a beautiful child - we were graciously blessed with him.
He was born in our hearts and was always meant to be our.
Scott and Jodi"
I am simply posting this as an eye opener for those who do not believe that adoptive parents still feel this way or have these thoughts.
Has adoption changed? Yes. Has it changed enough? NO.